BONUS EPISODE: Love & Real Estate: What It’s Like Being Married to a Realtor
Married to a Realtor? Buckle Up.
I’ll never forget the time we were out to lunch, and Andrew nudged me, nodding toward another couple a few tables away. The woman was on her phone, deep in negotiation mode. The man across from her? Staring at his food, looking like he’d rather be anywhere else.
Andrew just sighed. “I know that look.”
Being married to a realtor is not for the faint of heart. And since we’re pulling back the curtain on our life for this Valentine’s Day episode of the Happy Agent Co. Podcast, I figured—why not make it real?
After 16 years together (and nearly 21 in this business), Andrew has seen it all. The late-night calls. The canceled date nights. The vacations where I’m somehow closing deals from the beach. But he’s also seen the massive upside—like the freedom, flexibility, and, let’s be honest, the financial wins that come with building a real estate career.
So, what’s it really like being married to a realtor? Here are a few things Andrew has learned along the way:
1. Realtors Don’t Do “Normal” Hours
If you’re picturing a cozy 6 PM dinner every night, think again. Real estate doesn’t care about weekends, holidays, or pre-planned family time. Deals happen when they happen, and sometimes that means stepping away right when things get good.
Andrew said it best: "Realtors see time differently. Their hours are unique, unpredictable, and their income per hour is wildly different." Translation? Sometimes I’m working way more than him. Other times, we take off for a month-long vacation without missing a beat. It’s a trade-off—but one we’ve learned to navigate.
2. Forget Traditional Gender Roles
You know those household dynamics where the husband negotiates big purchases and the wife does the grocery shopping? Yeah… not in this house.
Andrew handles the day-to-day family logistics. I handle the real estate deals, the investments, and, yes, even the car negotiations. (True story: A salesman once tried to take Andrew “to the back” to talk numbers while I got a coffee. Let’s just say he left that meeting sweating, I left without buying the car, and Andrew had the best seat in the house for the show.)
3. This Life Requires Trust—A Lot of It
Being with a realtor means embracing uncertainty. It’s knowing that one minute you’re binge-watching Netflix, and the next, I’m throwing on heels and running out the door to close a million-dollar deal. It’s understanding that I’m not just working for fun—I’m building something bigger.
"Real estate can build your dream life, but we don’t go on these rides alone."
4. If You’re Going to Do This, Find a Partner Who’s In
The number one reason I’ve been able to build this business, invest in properties, and create the life we have? Because I have a partner who gets it. I’ve seen so many realtors struggle with a spouse who resents the time, the unpredictability, the ambition. It doesn’t work.
So, what’s the real secret to making this work? How does Andrew really feel about being a real estate spouse? And what’s the one thing he says could make or break your relationship?
You’ll have to listen to the full episode to find out. 😉
🎧 Tune in now to the Happy Agent Co. Podcast for the full, unfiltered conversation.
